You want to stay out an hour later than your curfew to see a movie with a friend your parents approve of. Your parents are occasionally willing to negotiate your curfew depending on who you are with and the activity you are doing?
You want to stay out an hour later than your curfew to see a movie with a friend your parents approve of. Your parents are occasionally willing to negotiate your curfew depending on who you are with and the activity you are doing?
Here's a potential approach to asking your parents, keeping in mind they are sometimes flexible:
- Choose the Right Time: Pick a calm moment when your parents aren't stressed or busy. Avoid bringing it up right before dinner or when they are rushing out the door.
- Be Direct and Polite: Start by clearly stating your request.
"Mom and Dad, I was wondering if we could talk about my curfew this Saturday?"
- Provide Details: Explain the situation clearly. Include who you're going with, what you're doing, and why you want the extra time.
"My friend [Friend's Name] and I were planning to see [Movie Name] on Saturday. It starts at [Time] and ends around [Time]. With the drive home, I was hoping I could have an extension of my curfew by one hour."
- Highlight Positive Aspects: Emphasize that you're going with a friend they approve of and that the activity is a reasonable one.
"You know I am friends with [Friend's name], and you both think they are a good influence. It would mean a lot to me as I have really been wanting to see this movie."
- Be Prepared to Negotiate: They might not agree to the full hour. Have a backup plan in mind, such as offering to call or text them during the movie, or agreeing to be home a little earlier than you initially asked.
"I understand if one hour is too much, maybe we can negotiate for half an hour?"
- Show Responsibility: Remind them that you've been responsible in the past and that they can trust you.
"I've always respected my curfew before, and I will make sure to be safe and responsible."
- Accept Their Decision: If they say no, accept their decision gracefully. Arguing or getting upset will make them less likely to be flexible in the future. Thank them for considering your request.
"Okay, I understand. Thanks for listening."
- Offer a Compromise: If they are hesitant, offer solutions that address their concerns.
"Would it help if I checked in with you halfway through the movie? Or if [Friend's Name]'s parents texted you as well?"